HYPNOSIS – MORE THAN A TECHNIQUE. IT IS A WAY OF LIFE. – AN HONEST ACCOUNT

Hypnotherapy in Everyday Life

And once again, we come back to the question: what exactly is hypnosis? Why is it still wrapped in that veil of mysticism and secrecy? Why is it still portrayed as something mysterious and dangerous, something people should be afraid of?

Because we are simply not sufficiently informed about what hypnosis actually is and how it can be used in everyday life. Even less are we familiar with how it can have a therapeutic effect on our lives. For this purpose, we use the term hypnotherapy.

Hypnosis really was once reserved for the chosen few, or, to put it more elegantly, for the elite. Centuries ago, people already knew that hypnosis could be an effective tool for improving quality of life. But why was it kept so strictly hidden from ordinary people? Quite simply because, in the past, much less was known about hypnosis than we know today. Hypnotherapy itself produced fewer satisfactory results than it does today. There were initial techniques, but everything was still very much in the research and development phase.

Even the process of entering hypnosis was researched and developed over time. These methods of entering hypnosis are called inductions. There are many different inductions, but the most commonly used are the Ericksonian and Elman inductions. There are, of course, many others available, but in practical work these two stand out the most.

With the development of these two inductions, hypnosis and, naturally, hypnotherapy began producing remarkable results. In particular, the percentage of people able to enter a hypnotic state through induction increased significantly.

Today, more than 80 percent of people who are willing to enter a hypnotic state through induction can reach the desired state of relaxation and hypnosis.

Everything has developed, and of course it continues to develop. I am very curious in this field and I explore the boundaries of what remains undiscovered. I know that I will find answers and achieve even better results.

As far as entering hypnosis itself is concerned, during the last seven years I can count on one hand the number of times when people have not achieved the desired result. And do you know why?

Because I simply do not think about whether the client will be able to reach a hypnotic state. That is how I am mentally oriented. I am firmly convinced that, with my technique and the chosen induction, I can help people enter a state of hypnosis from the very beginning.

Of course, at the beginning, when you are thrown into the water and have to learn through experience how to work practically with hypnotherapy and how to guide a person toward their desired goals and results, things are different.

At the beginning, through mentorship as well, I had it firmly anchored in my mind that not everyone is capable of reaching a hypnotic state. In principle, that is true. Nevertheless, a therapist must be confident and convinced that the client will achieve a hypnotic state.

Not everything depends on the therapist. A great deal also depends on the client, on the individual.

Through hard work and practice, practitioners learn how to respond, when to react differently, when to step outside their own frameworks, outside routine and outside their comfort zone.

You need courage. You need patience. You need a great deal of concentration. And, most importantly, you need a feel for people.

If you do not have that feel for people, if you do not have that warmth and genuine compassion, and if this work is not done with sincerity, then the results will not be there either. And you might as well give up the title of hypnotherapist, because you are far from being one. You are a manipulator.

That is my direct and honest personal opinion.

I also have an honest, and again personal, opinion when it comes to clients.

If someone helps you, if someone is finally willing to listen to you and offer you a solution and a path toward your goal or improvement, and despite all that you still choose to give up and criticize, then my doors are closed to you forever.

Once naive, always naive.

That is why I believe the relationship between therapist and client must be sincere. There must be results, because results are what matter. They build the relationship and trust that allow both people to move toward a shared goal.

Why a shared goal?

Because the client's goal also becomes my goal. Not directly my personal goal, of course, but the goal of me as a practitioner: to use hypnotherapy techniques to help create that final smile on the face of a person who was once in distress.

It is very important to me that the results and growth of my clients can be seen through the therapies.

The growth of their inner strength. The growth of their self-confidence. The growth of their renewed will to live.

I want to see growth. I long to see satisfaction and mutual trust. I enjoy seeing their smiles and their personal victories.

It is not about me, me, me, and me again.

I am who I am, and you are who you are. That does not interest me.

What does interest me is how I can connect with a client through conversation and energy, how we can find a common language and a shared energetic communication.

I have noticed that during the last seven years, since I began practicing hypnotherapy independently and stopped working with a particular hypnosis centre, the group of people who come to me has changed completely.

And I am grateful to the universe and to God for this path.

Sometimes our personal battles and defeats lead us onto a path that was already meant for us.

And then you realize that these were not battles and they were not defeats. They were signposts showing you where to go next.

Most people struggle because of unhealthy and destructive human relationships.

They struggle because of lies and deception, because of sexual betrayals and affairs involving their partners, because of betrayal by those closest to them, because of poor communication and violence within the family, and later within relationships.

They struggle because of distrust, personal trauma, and the loss of those closest to them. Because of loss and the breakdown of a family.

People who live through such genuinely hopeless periods, whether short or long, often stop thinking rationally and can no longer see a solution.

They experience sadness and anger. They experience shame, the loss of themselves, betrayal. They stop trusting people and discover that they have no friends.

Well, on this point I actually agree.

There are no friends.

Your best friend is yourself, and you can also be your own greatest enemy.

Your best friends are your family, of course, if you have one and if you have healthy relationships with them.

Would I agree that there are no friends?

Perhaps.

If you do have friends, they may betray or disappoint you. Not necessarily, of course.

But you trust a friend more, and they know more about you. And because they know more, there is also more that they could potentially use to betray or disappoint you.

Relatives can also betray and disappoint you.

Sometimes, when I say something like this during a conversation, people drop their jaws, widen their eyes and ask in astonishment:

“How do you mean there are no friends?”

I smile and agree with them until I put them face-to-face with their own personal reality and they begin to think.

“Maybe you are right. Maybe there is something to what you are saying. Your words and your way of thinking are giving me something to think about.”

And so, in these and similar scenarios of life, clients find themselves in hopeless situations.

They are alone. They realize that they really are alone and that nobody can help them.

And that is where the simple and curious guy Alen comes in — yours truly.

A little humour, a lot of truth.

This is where my mission begins. My energy and knowledge, wisdom and patience, experience and a whole lot of practical experience of all kinds.

During nine years of work — considering that the first year was largely education and involved only a small number of clients — I have already completed almost 5,000 therapies.

In Slovenia, that is a respectable number.

Do you know that people in such difficult moments think about suicide, and that many of them have already made a physical attempt and survived?

Do you know what happens when you ask someone when they last thought about suicide and they tell you: this week, yesterday, or even today?

You stop and think.

You realize that you have a great responsibility in how you respond and in which direction you guide that person.

You think carefully about how you are going to approach the work with them.

Do you know what my first goal is with such a person?

The answer is simple: that they remain alive.

I can help someone who is alive. I cannot help someone who is dead.

If you are alive, you can help yourself. If you are dead, you cannot.

Death leaves pain for the person's loved ones.

The first goal is to keep that person alive. And when they leave the first therapy, they must be able to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

They must have hope.

They must have a reason to keep fighting, to try, and to survive.

You know, situations like these can happen to any of us.

What is worrying is that more and more of today's children are experiencing personal distress and thoughts about taking their own lives.

Despite their young age, they can find themselves trapped in their own struggles and experience personal trauma in their own way, just as adults do — and often even more emotionally.

We are all facing difficulties.

Children, adolescents, middle-aged people, older people and the elderly.

We all carry our own cross.

Some people know how to cope with difficulties. Many do not.

However, even the strongest sometimes get lost and start looking for solutions.

Because of the seriousness of the cases that come to me, I have focused on the most difficult situations and adapted my way of working to them, changing my approaches and techniques when necessary.

Of course, there are also people who simply want to stop smoking, lose weight, or deal with lighter issues such as improving learning, concentration and memory.

They want to improve academic performance, or athletes want to achieve better results.

Entrepreneurs want to improve their businesses, attract more money and find better business partners.

Some want to overcome phobias and fears, various forms of anxiety, depression or bruxism.

Through hypnosis, people may also work on improving sleep, stopping nail biting and many other issues.

The spectrum of problems that people seek to address through hypnotherapy is truly broad.

But the goal and purpose are one and the same:

To improve quality of life.

At the same time, I also wrote the book Why Are We Born and Why Do We Die?

I began writing it in 2018.

I wrote the introduction and three chapters.

Then came stagnation, because of my comfort zone.

When I left the former hypnosis centre and set out on my own path, that was when a new birth and a new awakening began.

I am convinced that if I had stayed there, I would never work the way I do today, and I would never have encountered the most difficult cases.

That was when I managed to finish the book, and today it is an excellent confirmation from readers.

The book itself has already helped many people avoid complete collapse and suicide.

It was not a punishment, but a lesson:

Go. Walk your own path. You are stagnating. You are not growing. You are standing still.

At such times, we human beings tend to see everything in black.

It has to be dark. It has to be black in order for us to see the stars in the universe.

Lessons have to exist so that we can learn.

Although, of course, we do not have to learn from them.

If you do not want to, that is your choice.

Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are a huge part of my life.

They are the wise choice of my soul. They are my mission, my essence and my purpose.

They are my joy.

Even when life is difficult for me, this beautiful work of practicing hypnotherapy somehow makes it easier for me to pull myself out of my own thought patterns.

And then, when I least expect it, those beautiful, wonderful and almost magical words arrive:

“Alen, thank you.”

“Alen, you are an angel in human form.”

“Never stop doing this. We need you. People need you.”

That is something no friend or relative can necessarily give you.

That is the wonderful truth that comes from people who do not really know you.

Precisely those people can sometimes evaluate you in the most rational and honest way.

Their gratitude, their words and their sentences are stronger than all the disappointments, betrayals and lies you have experienced.

But you have to earn that.

You have to fight for it.

And only then can you truly be worthy of and honoured by such words and such a response.

This is not just hypnotherapy.

This is a way of life.

I love my work and I genuinely enjoy doing it.

With every success and every satisfied client, something inside my soul smiles.

And my soul tells me:

“Keep talking to me. Keep being playful. Remain that curious child and continue exploring.

You will reach your goal.

You will find your answers.

You are not alone.

We are with you.

You know exactly who we are.

Which ‘we’?

You know.”